Blind Date Basics
Your friend has just set you up with a guy you have never met and know
nothing about, except what she has told you. You have those fears. What if I
don't like him? What if I like him but he doesn't like me? Well, don't worry,
are here to help.
Keep an open mind
this is a blind date. You have never seen this guy before. Don't form a mental
image of him or have high expectations. You will only be disappointed if he
isn't how you imagined. You will know within the first few minutes whether you
are attracted to him or not.
Keep it short but sweet
Don't arrange to meet at the
cinema, for dinner or anywhere else that could keep you together for more than
an hour. Arrange to meet up for a coffee or during your lunch break. If you are
not interested in the guy then you can make a quick exit! If you have only
agreed to meet for a short time and you do like him, then you can stay where
are or arrange to meet up again.
It is crucial when on a blind date that you have an escape route. You could
get a friend to call you 30 minutes into the date and if you don't like him
you can make an excuse and leave. If you do like him, you can tell your friend
to call you back later. (Remember to always let someone know where you are.)
Or you could tell him that you promised your friend you’d go shopping
an hour after you and he planned to meet. If the date is going well, pretend
to go call her to let her know that "you’re not up to going shopping." Go
shopping if you aren't interested. You could get some friends to turn up at
the meeting point and if things aren't going well you can leave with them.
If things are going well, tell them you will meet up with them later. Meet ‘n’
One of the biggest mistakes people make when
going on a blind date is trying to be someone they're not.When meeting someone
for the first time, be yourself. Whether that means going all out or remaining
casual, your personality will shine through only if you’re not trying to be
something you're not. While first impressions are important, do not feel the
need to wear heels on a Sunday if you’d normally only wear flip-flop sandals.
wants to know who you are; not who you think he wants you to be.
Better safe than sorry
While going on a blind date can
be exciting and
fun, remember that you have no first hand knowledge about the person you are
meeting. If you have been set up through mutual friends, they will most likely
have a rough idea of your plans. But just in case, make sure someone knows
exactly where and when you’re meeting.If the person you are meeting is a
complete stranger, however, you need to take even more precautions. Make sure
someone knows your whereabouts, knows the name of the person you will be
meeting, and how long the date is scheduled for. You may want to have a friend
join you, or "run into you" about 15 minutes into the date to check up on
Make it clear from the start if you intend to pay for half of everything. You
may not want to feel like you owe the guy anything.
Parting after a blind date has the potential to be very awkward, but it doesn’t
have to be! Should you kiss him, if you like him? Should you tell him you
interested? It’s always best to do whatever you think feels right. If
you are interested in going out with him again, make sure he knows it and tell
him that you will call. If you aren’t interested in seeing him again,
make sure that you let him know. It’s better to be honest than to string
him along with false hopes.
Getting to know him
Pay close attention to the things he says, which can reveal a lot. Discussing
tastes in music, films, food and art can be a great way to find out if you
two have common interests—or nothing in common at all!You should also
look for common "warning signs" when on a blind date. If the guy
does any of the following, watch out!
Talks about his ex-girlfriend throughout the date
Doesn’t offer to pay for the first date (or the second, or third…)Speaks
badly about his mother or ex-girlfriends
Treats the waiters or staff rudely, doesn’t tipRemember not everyone
has the same tastes and there will be things about a guy that you do not like,
such as baldness, lack of hygiene etc.. These are your own warning signs so
don't ignore them.